Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Pregnancy, New Babies and Food Allergies

**None of the information below is medical advice or should be taken as such.  It is information that I have gathered and it is not fact just "information".  Consult your physician regarding your health and your own situation.


Image courtesy of Microsoft Clip Art

Last week the Little Man had an allergist appointment (more of an asthma check, really).  While there I took advantage of the time to ask a few questions I had about articles that I read regarding anti acids and increasing food allergies and breast feeding and causing food allergies.

Both articles weighed on me.  The last thing I want to do is to "cause" another child to have food allergies (it's always the mothers fault, isn't it??).

I wrote a post about a month and half ago about my horrible reflux.  I laugh because if I thought it was bad then, it only got worse.  I would allow myself to take a few tums or Gaviscon at bedtime.  But due to articles and studies such as this one, I was afraid to take more or take anything else.  My OB said that both were fine to take.  I've read that both were fine take.  I've even read that stronger anti acids were fine to take during pregnancy.  But fear of "causing" food allergies in this baby kept me from taking anything.  When I brought this up to our allergist, he said the same thing that I've been saying all along.  These studies and articles are not proven.  This is one study.  And tomorrow another study will come out that says there is no correlation between anti acids and food allergies.  He said you can't take these as fact but as a possibility.  He asked if my reflux was bad and when I said YES, severe, he pointed out that I'd be doing more damage to myself by not taking them than to the baby if I did.  He said the last thing I want to do is get severe esophagitis.   So I've been trying to still watch my diet.  Certain things can be triggers.  But when water triggers it or it just won't go away I take something.  I still try not to take too much, but he's right.  I don't want to hurt myself.

Last week I also read an article called Exclusive Breast Feeding Linked To Nut Allergies and I thought "WHAT THE HECK IS THIS NOW"???   I thought I read that breast feeding was supposed to protect against food allergies.  So what does this mean?

Again, the allergist and I spoke about this.  Breast feeding is best.  We all know this.  And it doesn't "increase" nut allergies.  He told me that he has seen incidence of babies reacting to nut protein in the mother's breast milk.  But that it is few and far between.  Yes, nut protein does pass through breast milk.  But it doesn't "cause" nut allergies per se.  He pointed out that in Israel, they give one month old babies peanuts and Israel has a very low rate of peanut allergies.  There is even This article from the NCBI talking early ingestion of peanut protein and low nut allergy risk.  Of course this article is just a study and nothing has been proven EITHER WAY.  If early ingestion of peanut protein lessened the risk of nut allergies in children, then wouldn't the nut protein ingested through breast milk, do the same thing?  No one knows.  And that's the point.  As our allergist pointed out, maybe it truly is a timing thing.  Maybe it's the way the nuts are processed.  You could drive yourself crazy trying to figure all this out.  And does it work the same for milk, wheat or egg allergies?  Again, WHO KNOWS???  Apparently no one knows.  So the conclusion that we came to was if going without nuts during breast feeding isn't going to kill me then go for it.  And it won't kill me because I don't eat them very often.

I've also decided to try to get a handle the other foods/top 8 allergens that I'll be eating and try to do a rotation diet so that I'm not eating too much of one food every day possibly causing food allergies for the baby in another way.

It's all a fine line and it's all conjecture.  Until concrete proof comes out explaining HOW individuals acquire food allergies all we can do is the best we can with the limited knowledge available.

Reading the articles and studies are a good thing.  You need to keep informed.  But you (meaning "I") need to put them in perspective and accept them for exactly what they are:  Possibilities, not fact.

Saturday, July 21, 2012

The Crib Mattress Saga


Ever think that something is a no brainer and it turns out to be a pain in the booty??  Yea, that was the crib mattress.

Back in March we went furniture shopping for the new baby.  I wanted to get the best deal possible, but after having gone to several furniture stores, I realized that there is no "best deal".  We wanted "life time" furniture instead of just buying baby furniture.  And I wanted to purchase the whole thing now because the last time we did this, we planned on adding to the set down the road and the company went out of business. Luckily our furniture store called to let us know that and we were able to add to it before it was no longer available.

So I found what I wanted and we placed the order for it in May.  And it was delivered a few weeks ago.  We purchased the All Seasons Collection from Young America.  And we purchased this crib in cherry.  I bought a mattress for it at that big Baby store a few weeks before furniture delivery.  I'll spare you the details on how the delivery guys left spots all over my carpet and how we were supposed to actually get a slightly different set (in Cinnamon, not Cherry) because I was able to get past all that.  What I couldn't get past was the fact that the mattress was really too small for the crib.  I could fit my whole hand between the mattress and the back board.  It looked really unsafe and like a tiny arm or leg (or nose once baby starts rolling) could get caught in the space.  So Hubs and I returned that mattress and got one that was more stiff and according to the website was an inch bigger.  And the gap was the same.

A few weeks ago I went to the furniture store to speak to them about this problem.  It took a while to find someone to help me so I walked around and checked out each crib to see how their mattress fit them.  Every crib was different.  Some were really tight and there was NO space.  Some you could fit one finger between the back board and the mattress.  Our crib had the same large gap between the back board and the mattress.  Finally someone came to help me and she told me that the crib fits the standard size mattress.  I showed her the gap and her response was "Just shove the bumper down there to fill the space".  That really made me mad.  First of all, bumpers are not recommended anymore due to suffocation to the baby.  I didn't even buy a bumper.  And are you telling me that I spent big money for a crib that may or may not kill my child and that's your solution???  I think she could tell that I was less than thrilled so she offered to call their local Stanley rep and ask for his opinion and she would get back to me.  His response ended up being the same.  It fits the standard size mattress.

In the meantime I went over to the big Baby store and a lady in their crib department tried to help me, but she didn't really have any suggestions either.  Except for the shove the bumper in the hole.  Nice.

I ended up calling Stanley and they had me send pictures of the gap.  I got the best pictures I could but I wish I would have taken video of some it.

Gap doesn't look too bad here.

You can really see it if you look to the right side.

This is quite a thick book.  Here's were I wish I would have done video.  I took photos of the book slipping through the gap but a video would have illustrated it better.

It fits.

It slides and it actually slid all the way through and fell to the floor.

That's my fist fitting in there.

To Stanley's credit, they tried to help me.  Customer Service eventually turned me over to Quality Control.  QC  didn't go as far as I would have liked and they suggested a certain mattress on the big Baby store website that according to the site measured 29" and should fill the gap.  So I headed to the big Baby store with tape measure in hand and proceeded to measure all the mattresses from cheap to expensive (at this point saving money wasn't an issue, I just wanted something SAFE).  Low and behold, they all measured 27 1/4 inches in width.  Which was confusing because the website gives different sizes.  A very nice and knowledgeable girl came over to see if she could help me.  I explained to her my plight, and she informed me that 27 1/4 is the standard width for ALL U. S. mattresses.  The manufacturer may list a different width but that's because they measured from the puffy ends and not the actual width.  There are no "bigger" mattresses unless you order one online from Europe where they don't have a standard size.  We measured the part where the mattress would go and it measures 28 3/4 inches.  That leaves a gap of about 1.5 inches.  Apparently this fits into the tolerances of the industry standard.  Does that make me happy?  NO.  Do I feel safe with that?  NO.  Do I think that industry standards need to be tightened?  YES.  If the standard mattress is 27 1/4 inches wide than the width of the crib should be 27 1/4 to 27 1/2 too.

I did find a mattress that fit "better" but not perfect.  We ended up with Stearns and Foster mattress from the big Baby store.  Don't look at that online price because we did not pay that.  It had a really good sale that day.  But it's incredibly firm and it has a wire that goes around the edge of the mattress so nothing can sink though the gap.  It's also got square edges vs. rounded ones so it lessened the gap.  I can still fit one finger in the gap but it's better.  Hubs even drove the next day to get the mattress from the furniture store to see if it fit better and it had the same gap as the first 2 mattresses we got.  UGH.

So my whole point of this post is to give anyone else that purchases this crib our experience and which mattress actually worked for us.  I went through 2 weeks of trying to get this taken care of to no avail.  I still need to send an email back to Stanley QC letting them know that their suggestion didn't work.  And even though they probably won't listen to me, I'm going to suggest that they tighten their tolerances. 

The nursery is almost complete now.  We just need to hang a few things on the walls.  I have quilt clips to hang up the quilt as a wall decoration and that requires a drill.  I'll hammer in nails, but I don't drill.  I'm afraid I'll rip the walls apart.  

The evil crib.  This crib turns into a double bed for when the baby gets older and needs a big boy bed.  We did the room in the Very Hungry Caterpillar.  



That quilt will get hung on the wall.

35.6 weeks.  Only 4 more weeks to go.


 

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Just Checking In

Wow, it's been almost 2 weeks since I posted last.  Things have been busy around here (but let's face it, that's nothing new).

The weather has been in the high 90's for the past 2 weeks.  It's stinking H.O.T.

The boys went to cub scout day camp last week and had a lot of fun.  The Little Man was fine food allergy-wise.  They did what they could to keep him safe and he's also becoming a strong advocate for himself.

Last week ended this season of baseball.  The boys are sad.  I am happy.

We still have swim team daily and meets on Thursdays.  Swim team will be over the end of July.  I am happy.

We are going to start shopping for school supplies this week.  The list for the new school is L.O.N.G.

I hope to start uniform shopping next week.

They should already be set on school shoes but will need two new pair of tennis shoes (one to wear with shorts for the beginning of the year and one to leave at school for gym class).  I would like to wait as long as possible on shoes and I figure even Dad can get those for them after the baby comes.

The nursery is almost done.  We have a few things to hang on the wall but then it should be complete.  I'll do another post later in the week about the mattress saga.

I'm 35.4 weeks today.  4 1/2 weeks to go!


Friday, July 06, 2012

The Little Man's Birthday Surprise

It wasn't a total surprise because we had to tell him Wednesday evening.  We were afraid that if we made it a total surprise he would be too afraid and shut down.

His "gift" was that we were able to be on the field for Indians batting practice at last nights game and he was going to get to meet his hero, Jack Hannahan (3rd base).

At first all he said was "cool".  Then it hit him and he kept saying "I'm the luckiest kid in the world".  And then he got really nervous.  He planned out exactly what he was going to say all day yesterday.  I'm so glad that we told him before hand and didn't leave it as a total surprise.  I think he would have been in shock and not said anything.

For the last two little league seasons, the Little Man has requested jersey #9.  It's not too difficult to get it since Dad is the coach.  We have no idea why he's identified with Jack, but now his favorite position is 3rd base (and catcher).  He also has said that he likes Jack because he's a practicing Catholic just like the Little Man.  But that is actually a new revelation because of this article that we read earlier this year.

But whatever the reason, he's taken Jack as his hero and I'm OK with that.

 On the field during batting practice.  It was so hot down there!



The Little Man (and Older Boy) meeting Jack.

He was on cloud 9 all night and still is this morning.  I think his 8th birthday will be one he'll never forget.

Thursday, July 05, 2012

Hope You Had A Happy and Safe Fourth Of July

We did!  I spent the day washing and putting away all the new baby clothes and bedding.  My men left for the Tribe game around 2 pm and didn't return until close to 8 pm.  We were going to shoot off some fireworks last night, but the weather had other plans.  I'm not complaining because we desperately need the rain (and fireworks scare me) but the kids were sad.  We'll just save them for the weekend.

I kept trying to tell them that even though WE didn't shoot off any fireworks, they got to watch God's fireworks (which they weren't buying and the Little Man is so afraid of storms that he was not amused) :










It's raining and storming here now too.  I sure hope it clears up today.  We have a special birthday surprise for the Little Man tonight and the weather needs to be clear to pull this off.  His birthday isn't until July 9th but tonight is the night that we have to do this.  I'll share more tomorrow.